Self-Identity

It's Your Body, No One Else's

               

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Body image is such a sensitive topic, sure it's covered in school and we are told to embrace our bodies and love ourselves for who we are, but then we are bombarded with all this social media. Tabloids are telling us what the ideal body is and what is considered fit, healthy, and attractive… and if you do not have those traits or qualities then we are not beautiful. The past few years I have been struggling with body image.

A letter to my Grade 11 Self

             

You will prove to yourself very soon that you are worthy of everything good and that love is not something to be earned but something that is already surrounding you. You are loved by so many, now it’s time you learn to love yourself.

3 Lessons Learned from A Lifetime of Body Image Issues

                                         

TRIGGER WARNING: the following material may be triggering for some individuals - please read with caution.

I’m no expert on body image. Nor have I suffered from an eating disorder. I’m just a man antagonized by body image issues all my life.

Along the way, I learned some life lessons. I hope those suffering as I do will find them useful.

 

The Elephant

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I fear that I am the elephant

And not because of the majestic size of my body, or the beautiful wrinkles of my skin

But the elephant in the room

The Role of Self Care

Let me tell you something.  I HATE self care…. or at least I thought I did.  The idea of self care was introduced to me when I first entered therapy over a decade ago and I dismissed it without a second thought. “I don’t need self care,” I would say to myself. ” It isn’t important, it’s indulgent, I don’t deserve it, and it certainly won’t help.”  This was my stance for years and years as I refused to do it whenever suggested.

For The Love of Digestion

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Trigger Warning: this blog contains discussion of disordered eating behaviour, read at your own descretion. 

I’m going to be writing about poop and digestion. Ugh. Right? I thought you needed fair warning.

One of the benefits of recovery from an eating disorder is being able to answer the call of nature. It sounds simple, and it is, but for someone with a history of an eating disorder, digestion is complex and life changing. For many years, and still today, my internal pipes are quite stubborn. They are angry, erratic, loose, retentive, and just plain impossible. That said, since committing to recovery, my digestion rewards me with more success than disappointment.

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